So this month I wanted to talk about something near and dear to my heart. I have a short story in my book that talks about a little girl who is a foster child and being molested regularly. She kept this to herself out of fear and guilt. I felt the need to write about this because this is so common, more common than you know! There are women who use sex and their bodies as a tool or a weapon because that is all they know it to be good for. Women are getting in relationships with men, feeling like that their sex and body is the key to their happiness in the relationship. In my opinion, this is not done purposely, but unknowingly. I mean if a grown man can rape and forcefully take it then it must be pretty worthless right?! A lot of times when girls go through this they carry it with them throughout womanhood, most times never telling a soul. One who never experienced this type of abuse would have no understanding as to why a person would keep it to oneself. Even though most times there is an adult or a person who has some type of advantage carrying out these acts on a child or someone with the mind of a child who they feel is helpless, the victim may feel a sense of guilt. The victim may feel like maybe they may get in some type of trouble if they were to tell what was going on. Not to mention, the victimizer, most times tell the victim something to make them fearful, or guilty. The victim may, in some strange way feel loved and cared for by the victimizer. The victim may get so little attention from anyone else and may be living in such bad conditions that this may feel like the closest thing to love.
Okay so I was on the verge of talking about how girls carry these ill feelings and situations with them into their adulthood. There are a lot of great and successful women who, if not properly dealt with, have and will continue to suffer in relationships of all kind. When something that is so precious is taken from you, and at such an early age, first off, that is a memory that will never leave your mind. Second off, there is a strip of self value. As a result there is an permanent lack of trust, because most times the victims victimizer is someone who is supposed to care about the victims well being. There are self-image issues and you have a hard time seeing your worth and continue to question it. You continue to go through life looking for the validation of others, when what you are looking for, no other person can give you. Then there is a sense of guilt that some face. What if by staying silent, the victimizer is traumatizing someone else.
I felt the need to blog about this topic because I wanted to know how others may feel about this topic. I know many are touchy about this issue but I want to communicate about this. I want to know who read this short story and what you thought?